[Sexual Healing] Good Vibrations

The first time I saw a vibrator in Hot Topic I was shocked. Not an angry, "what the hell is this doing here?" kind of shocked, just the "interesting…." kind. This month when I pull out the latest issue of Cosmopolitan, I will likely read the embarrassing story of a woman travelling with her vibrator which was accidently turned on during travel and is making obnoxious (and obvious) sounds. This leads to the question: is everyone doing it?

To put it simply: yes. Of course as a sweeping generalization, no, but typically college students are going to be orgasming frequently, whether alone or with a partner. They are also incorporating a variety of sex toys, alone or with a partner. Most college students have probably heard of a "fleshlight" or dildo, common sex toys that people you know probably own, and maybe even you. There is also the sex toys used with partners (vibrating cock ring anybody?)

Can these toys effect a relationship? It may, some people are threatened by the idea of their partner having pleasurable sensations without them. There is also the other argument though: it is better they get it from the toy than someone else. Toys to be used solo may affect the relationship if one partner uses theirs so often they no longer desire sex, while toys to be used together can create the issue that using it becomes necessary to achieve orgasm. As long as the toys are used as an accessory or tool for orgasm and not as the main source, these problems should not occur.

When it comes to the variety of toys, it seems they come in all shapes, sizes, colors, textures, and functions. There are so many options one may be left in a sex shop for hours trying to decide what toy suits them best. For women the toys vary from miniscule vibrating toys to be worn in their panties to elaborate machines; for men there are dolls and rubber vaginas. The sex toy industry has become so large and there are so many options, there is likely something for everyone.

There are many toys that do not involve direct stimulation, from clothing to Chinese sex swings, there are many ways to experiment and experience these additions to your sexuality. Many people enjoy seeing their lady in a sexy outfit or having their position options vastly expanded by the addition of a liberator. One important thing to remember is that the toys are just that: toys. They should provide pleasure, but not replace your partner. If you are ridin' solo then these toys just may be your best friend. So the next time you're in Spencer's gifts, check out the selection.