Bed Buddies
Claire Crosbie , Staff Reporter
ccrosbie@csumb.edu
I don’t know about you but I love free trial offers. For 30 days or more, I can test out whatever product I want without spending a dime and signing up for any future obligation. They are so convenient and in a way, having a friend with benefits is sort of like free trial offers.
For a specific amount of time, you can test things out with that friend you have always flirted with or built sexual tension for without getting emotions involved and worrying about the strings attached within a relationship.
It might sound convenient or a good idea, but maybe these points should be considered before hopping into bed with that friend.
The friendship may not survive. Many times people agree to a physical only relationship thinking the friendship is strong enough to last or be the same after the sexual tension fades. It might be possible to stay friends, but the relationship won’t truly be like before. The close bond you once shared will most likely detach as soon as your bodies detach from each other. Adding sex to any relationship changes it; no matter what we convince ourselves.
Emotions ALWAYS get involved. Those who say they won’t get their emotions involved or their feelings hurt are lying to themselves. Even if we tell ourselves it’s just casual sex or it’s only temporary, emotions and feelings still exists. There are obviously hidden feelings when two people agree on being friends with benefits. However, usually only one person has feelings for the other; rarely is it consensual. So even though it sounded fitting to try things out in the beginning, someone will get their feelings hurt.
It won’t be a secret for long. You might say to one another, half joking and half serious, that it will be between just the two of you, but the truth is: it’s bound to be out in the open. Eventually, people will talk, they will know about your dirty little secret, and you will most likely have to justify your actions with everyone. And you never know; this little secret might affect your future relationships.
Having a friend with benefits could be fun if both parties agree it’s solely physical, however, it’s still very risky. It could work out nicely with no complications or it could ruin a friendship. So the next time you want to hump without the concern of getting dumped, think it over long and hard. Sorry, I couldn’t resist.
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